Grief

[Kakea]

I'm going to go through something rough for me, I need some help: I couldn't
handle the thought, but it was referred to alot. I couldn't stand it, but now
it's looming over me. How do you deal with grief? When I was younger, I didn't get
feel this... I don't know how to deal with this other than forcing my positive emotions,
but I'm not good with faking/lying about my feelings.

 

[18]

Open up to your family or close friends. With any luck you might find someone who can sympathize.

There is no solution to it unfortunately. Lots of people say it fades with time but it's the biggest lie there is. I hate the saying, "Time heals all wounds," because it simply isn't true. Even years after the cause of their grief happened, people can feel just as sad about it as they did on the first day. You learn to hide it and forget about it most of the time, but that doesn't mean it goes away over time; it all just accumulates in the lines on your face.

To suppress it, drown yourself in activity. Run, do something creative, throw yourself into your school or work or your hobby. Focus on whatever you're doing so you don't have too much time to think about your grief.

I also read that some people do this thing where they allow themselves to grieve and worry continuously for 15 minutes per day, but not any more than that. You can try it, it didn't work for me. Good luck.

 

[Kakea]

I'll try drowning in activity: every one here knows about the grief... so
I can't talk to them. No one can help,
almost everyone's suffering from granddad's death...