I'm a guy, but....

[Mercedes-Benz]

Im feeling so confused rn. Dysphoria is hard to handle, what with my weight and all that crud. Im tryna grow out my hair, but my mom keeps wanting it to be cut. I tried explaining the thing with my hair, but she said i looked like a little boy. Thats one step closer to achieving the transition i guess.
I dont want to be a guy. Never really liked the idea of being a dude anyway.
Im willing to change that, but i want my parents to support me on this, as they had with other things
How should i tell my mom that i want to transition for real?

 

[Aura Knight]

This has never happened to me, and I don't want to say anything accidentally insensitive, so my two cents will have to be something you can use in general for any stressful confrontation.

For me, preparing for the worst to come is one way to prepare. It may not be easy on mental health, but it's a good idea to be ready for it.

But if it'll give you an anxiety attack, ignore my advice.

 

[Duffy]

It's never easy talking about something like this, and I've certainly never had to do anything like this, but my advice is to tell your parents when you are ready. I'm sure they will understand and support you, but it might take a little while for them to come around to it (especially depending on your age). Just remember to stay strong!

 

[Whovian#1]

Look I am not any part LGBT+ in any way shape or form I do not know the proper advice to give so take what I say with a grain of salt.

I think the best thing to do is to have an open and honest conversation with your parents about it, I believe that waiting and not telling may cause it to only be worse down the line.

To quote Stephen King's Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption:

"There are really only two types of men in the world when it comes to bad trouble," Andy said, cupping a match between his hands and lighting a cigarette. "Suppose there was a house full of rare paintings and sculptures and fine old antiques, Red? And suppose the guy who owned the house heard that there was a monster of a hurricane headed right at it. One of those two kinds of men just hopes for the best. The hurricane will change course, he says to himself. No right-thinking hurricane would ever dare wipe out all these Rembrandts, my two Degas horses, my Jackons Pollocks and my Paul Klees. Furthermore, God wouldn't allow it. And if worst comes to worst, they're insured. That's one sort of man. The other sort just assumes that hurricane is going to tear right through the middle of his house. If the weather bureau says the hurricane just changed course, this guy assumes it'll change back in order to put his house on ground zero again. This second type of guy knows there's no harm in hoping for the best as long as you're prepared for the worst."

Basically this quote means, hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

Good luck.

 

[eonia]

if i was in your place and feel like horrible things could happen(like, for example them kicking you of the house), I would wait until I could live by myself so that i can do what i want with less danger, specially if you feel that your parets hate LGTB people

I am gay ,and I am lucky that i live in a place where at most the wosrt possible common event are people that annoys me saying "¿are you joking?" or"¿really?, you dont look gay"when they know i like men ,but not real danger

 

[Iso Kilo]

I've made the transition myself, and I don't regret it. It feels great. Worrying about haircut is one thing that's taken off my shoulders (ironic). I get far more compliments than I usually would, and it just works with some of the features I was born with. But telling your parent(s) about this can be difficult. I didn't really bring it up to my mom for quite some time, instead I just slowly transitioned towards being female. Whenever she told me I need a haircut, I'd tell her I want to look like my favorite music artist; James Clayton. Then I began to wear more feminine clothes, tighter jeans, baggy sweaters. Once I pointed this all out to my mom, she accepted it. But it's really up to you as to how you should handle this.